One of my girlfriends called on me regarding her marital problems.  Since I've been through that whole co-dependent/alcoholic relationship bit she figures I'm an expert on the subject.  She'd be right but in the wrong sort of way.  I have this whole resentful, bitter kind of expertise that probably makes any advice I give her questionable.   Nothing unnerves me more than watching her stand by silently hoping & wishing for better days.  She is naive in believing that enduring hardships will win her points thus someday things will "get better" and he will "see the error of his ways".  It's bullshit.  It's called allowing yourself to be demoralized.  It's called, "Hello...we only have 1 (I repeat 1 in case she isn't getting the picture) life to live."  Do I sound intolerant?  Okay, so I'm carrying around some unresolved anger...
I mean...WHY STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT WORK?  WHY STRAIN AND STRUGGLE AND GRIPE?   This girl is beautiful.  I'm not even talking sort of pretty.  On a scale of 1 to 10 she'd be a 12.  No lie.  I'm not ugly and totally blowing this out of proportion.  But, I'm the kind of Meg Ryan, Cameron Diaz sort of fun cute.  She's drop dead freaking model look lovely that just glances at men and they drool.  So she's going to put up with all this for what?  Not that it takes looks to get guys.  There is so much more....GS...You know what I'm talking about we've had this conversation...Okay...so I've decided that me giving advice is NOT a good idea.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.

Attributed to confuscious